05. October 2019 - 10:00
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Becoming Healthy Parents | The Centre for Healthy Autonomy | Saturday, 05. October 2019

What does it mean to be a 'healthy parent'? We want to be healthy in all ways for our children, but do we know what this means? Over the past 50 years or so we have radically changed our perspectives on a whole range of topics to do with becoming parents, having and bringing up children.
~   Parents create the emotional environment in which their children can develop and grow. The parents' psychological and emotional state is all the child has to go on, and it profoundly affects them. It matters not whether you are approaching becoming a parent and having children, or if you already have your children, or even that your children are grown up and managing their own issues. Whatever age your children, you can still become clearer and healthier parents and this will always help your children.
~   Children are extremely sensitive and context oriented. This means that if the parent addresses and clarifies their own personal traumas and distresses of the psyche, immediately the child will respond in a healthy way. We could say that children offer us signposts of our own psychological state; they are often the symptoms of the parental distress. They are just children doing their best in a world set by the parents. They are the signposts pointing to the problem, but they are not the problem in themselves. It is tempting, and often happens, that children are deemed the problem, and this offers a way out for the parents to avoid addressing their own issues. This is evidence in my view by the high number of children now on medication for 'disorders' such as ADHD. Might not the child's disordered, chaotic and distressed behaviour in fact be their way of trying to manage a disordered, chaotic and distressed parental environment?
~   Your child, if you have one, is a gift. In a million ways he or she will tell you quite clearly, like a mirror, that there is something you need to do for yourself... perhaps urgently. We have a cultural and societal belief that we should put others before ourselves. From the perspective of becoming healthy parents this is a fallacy. We need, as parents, to put ourselves first, because if we look after our own psyche, becoming clearer and healthier in ourselves, we then create an environment in which children can feel safe, boundaried, protected, valued and loved.
~   For more information about my work go to my website: www.vivianbroughton.com. 
~   There are 8 guaranteed working places on these workshops, and if there is time after that there will be a ballot for further opportunities to do a personal exploration. If participants take up this opportunity they will be required to pay the extra £80. 
~   Please be aware that these workshops may involve emotional experiences as the topic is the exploration of personal trauma.
~   If you are new to this work you might like to read some of the posts on my blog, perhaps starting with An Introduction to the Theory of Multi-Generational Psycho-Traumatology, or one of the books by Franz Ruppert (the originator of this theory and work) or myself. A good starting book is Becoming Your True Self by me.
~   You can find out more information about me here.
Payment Policy:
All fees must be paid in full on application. It is not possible to have a fee reduction if only part of the workshop is attended. If you have any difficulty with payment please get in touch with me, info@vivianbroughton.com. I am willing to consider reductions for those in need.
Cancellations Policy:
Full refund less 25% up until 2 weeks before the first day of the workshop. You can transfer to a later workshop at no cost up until 2 weeks before the first day of the workshop. If you have to cancel with less than 2 weeks notice before the event there is no refund. If the workshop has to be cancelled you will receive a full refund.